This is something that seems to confuse many as to the real meaning. Some people thanks to some well known celebrities that go involved in the debate seem to think that tantric sex is like a marathon love making session, which it probably is in some cases, but at the essence of the teachings is learning about your partner more and gaining spiritual enlightment is more what tantric therapy is about.
In the most common ritual form of tantra, both parties will worship each other’s sacred spaces such as the lingam and the yoni. It is actually far more centred on the mindset and mental approach than the physical side. Having said all this we do find generally that people that are comfortable and actively involved in tantric teaching, will learn to have a greater staying power and sexual performance as they will be using various techniques that are taught to them by their spiritual teacher or their tantric guide.
Through controlling the mind each of the partners will be focused upon human touch and controlled breathing techniques. It is also very much a methodocial process for both parties and to gain the full benefit one must completely surrender themselves and immerse themselves in this tantric experience.
Wherever you are in the UK, Europe or the US you will find different practitioners who will facilitate the learning of tantra to different levels and many will welcome couples for learning this process together. Tantric Massage in London is one example of a business that is dedicated to helping couples learn and grow together spiritually through the use of tantric methodologies and to gain much more of an insight into themselves. This enlightenment can be a very enpowering experience and in so many cases can be life altering for people that choose this path at some point in their lives